Was talking over a beer with a friend couple of days back and we were just laughing over the past fun times and all the crazy shit we did over the period of time. But guess what after 5 mins the conversation changed to the regular business, economic scenario’s, Stocks etc etc. I noticed my past 1 year that most of the conversations had been like this,New Ideas, Work, Side work/ Passion work, Hustle, Health & ya A fine Scotch etc.
This got me thinking from where we started to where we reached in terms of conversations, meaning of fun and overall outlook of life. Then it clicked, its ADULTING. So as per Oxford Dictionary “the practice of behaving in a way characteristic of a responsible adult, especially the accomplishment of mundane but necessary tasks.”
In short from being someone else’s responsibility to being responsible for someone or something. With Adulting oneself is incharge of 99% of life’s decisions and when in business the effects of others actions lands on you and you are incharge to lead them through the betterment which is eventually self betterment as well. In short “THE BUCK STOPS WITH YOU”.
One is allowed to screwup in adulting but you are incharge of own actions, someone else wont be coming to clean up ur mess, wether it is Business balance sheet, or Life Balance Sheet. We only are responsible for everything.
Sometimes I miss being a 25 YO kid who was just figuring things out and dabbling the idea of adulting and frankly it is 10 years and suddenly Adulting has hit me and damn I must say it has hit me hard. Still all the preparation of Adulting has not lead to any substantial results. It is an Extempore Exam which just never ends. But in terms of learning, this whole Adulting has been a great teacher and everyday something new falls on your as a Problem which you solve and learn something and move ahead in life.
To all my readers who are below 23 please enjoy as much u can & the people who are sailing on a same boat of Adulting as me “KEEP FIGHTING” and Excel at Adulting..
Please do let me know it is a Boon or a Curse in comments, In my honest opinion it is a glass half full kind of situation. Boon for me though…!!!
Had been reading in news papers, getting lot os forwards on whatsapp and TV News Channels blowing up this news regarding reopening of Liquor Shops across country makes my head blow off. Even local police officers are going crazy and opposing this decision in muted voice, well everyone knows that there are very slim chances that their opinion is not going to get considered.
Seriously in order to have a good time of few hours we are playing with lives keeping Social Distancing rules in the dustbin. Why cant we just give it a chill for few weeks more. Is Liquor more important then life.
The stupidest part which was showcased on TV news was an interview of guy who was standing in line of liquor shop since 2.30 AM and he was saying it so proudly & audacity which made a question arise in my mind “Cant we do away with Liquor for sometime”…???
I totally agree that it is sometimes required to curb anxiety which is at its peak in these lockdown times but does it weighs more then the loss of life or risk of infection.
If government is so concerned about generating revenue and money for functioning then they have done an excellent work but it is my opinion that they have royally overlooked the cost of life & cost of Covid19 infections. We should definitely look forward to USA & European Countries for the kind of mess this whole infection has caused till now. Just a suggestion regarding the safeguard of human life and lowering the risk of infection, Govt should allow home delivery of liquor for sometime.
I know that I am going to get lot of backlash with respect to expressing my opinion & thought process but seriously saying I couldn’t have stopped myself more.
Although I was suppose to write this 2 days back but was stuck with some things here and there. The Irony happened when back to back two of the powerhouse actors lost their battle to Cancer.
Sometimes in life when we come across these kind of things we face the realities of life. It don’t matters how much medical science has advanced, or how good doctor or hospital you can afford, or how long your battle is. In majority of the cases it wins and sometimes to just satisfy the ego of mankind cancer lets us win.
The irony happened with both of them that they passed away in such a lockdown time that they had a very small sendoff’s which they didn’t definitely deserved. But rules are rules and us being the responsible citizen have to follow them to the last dot. But major sadness happened with Irrfan Khan as he was not able to go and attend his mother’s funeral few days before, He definitely could have been there for her one last time.
I personally felt that the role of media or insider paparazzi who leaked the home pics of Rishiji’s corps was so bad. Seriously we should respect the privacy of the departed soul’s family. Seeing Ranbeer kapoor’s pic watching his father was just so heartbreaking. they should not have surfaced to the media. I feel it’s just because of few rupees the pics got clicked and shared for the media and paparazzi.
One who had came in this world will definitely have to go “IT IS A FACT” it just a matter of time. If it is your time then you will go and if its not then whatever you do you wont go. We should not crib about how long the life is, We should ponder how Large my life is. There’s this dialogue in movie Neerja “babumoshay zindagi lambi neahi badi honi cahiye “. In the end we should definitely ask “Have I made It Large”
I was born on 27.9.1985 and was looking like a happy & normal child but few months in and doctors started noticing a week and anaemic kid and did some tests which were normal. In short they didn’t had a clue whats happening.
Just to give you a brief sense on what Thalassemia is, it is a blood disorder which is passed down to every generation unwillingly. For rest of the knowledge please enjoy reading google, i am pretty sure there will be better info there then me sharing here.
So, unknowingly both my parents were thalassemia carriers and i came out to be Beta Thalassemia Major “this kind of heavy name is definitely suiting my personality for sure”. Then it was detected in June of 1986 that I have Thalassemia Major and as per the doctor of that time who delivered the news I will be needing blood transfusions in every 15 days all my life and my life expectancy will be not more then 11 – 12 years. So that day my Mom & Dad took a challenge keeping me in mind that we will fight this till a solution comes through medical advancements. So from that day i was kept as a normal kid and was allowed to function as a normal kid only…
Doctor visits was routine for me and transfusions were like an additional Sunday. But as Age progressed to 16 – 17 the side effects of thalassemia started showing on thorough check ups doctor gave me severe osteoporosis and severe hormonal imbalance & some more to live with…
But with all this and proper care given by family I am able to fight and win against Thalassemia and sometimes I feel it has turned from my ailment to my strength. Since long when I can remember I was taught by my parents to stay happy and stay positive always. Maybe that’s why i don’t take much load of anything in my life.
For me life is one transfusion to other transfusion and then in the middle…
it was just recent my transfusion got free at 11 AM and I was in my office at 11.30 resuming my work… so I think after 33 years it just don’t matters much, more of a part of life kind of a thing for us.
I remember it was one post transfusion after noon approx 12.30 and i was in office with my medical tape just to cover the location where the needle was pricked for transfusion. So this guy who himself is a doctor caught this and recognised the bandage (Even after my super try to hide it under the watch) and asked, bro what happened…??? So i gave him a reply bro just got free from my transfusion and as our meeting was fixed regarding your car, So i am here for your help. And I swear the guy lost his mind and he started pressuring me to go and have rest and argued a lot for me to be not there that time.
I think, keep walking ahead spirit comes to us Thalassemia kids by birth somehow as few of other thalassemia kids who I know in Ajmer are also same type of me. So its nothing special for us.